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Guest Blog! The Power of Words

Remember that old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”? We were all taught this saying as kids, and wouldn’t it be nice if it were true? Unfortunately, I’ve yet to meet anyone who has never been hurt by the words of another, yet we still speak unkindly, even cruelly to ourselves.  

Experience has shown me, and science backs this up, that one of the best ways we can change how we feel is by changing the words we use in our daily conversations and when we talk to and about ourselves as well. Negative self-talk lowers self-esteem and stops us from being confident in ourselves and our abilities.

If you're comparing yourself to others, negatively judging how you look and act, and behaving like your own worst critic, then it's time to learn how to use the power of words in a positive way. Using positive language will raise your self-esteem and boost your confidence, help you feel happier and help you enjoy life more. Fortunately, it's pretty easy to change our word choices and thoughts. The process can take time, and you may find yourself back-sliding sometimes, but keep making the effort. The payoff is well worth the energy!

Tools For Changing Your Thoughts

1) Critical thoughts come from a desire to improve, or can come from a place of self-judgment. Learn how to shift your focus to what is right and how you can do better, rather than thinking negatively. Eg. “I'm awful at playing piano!” becomes “I am really great at…(insert one aspect of what you are working on that you ARE good at, even if it is something you think is minor, like playing a simple song or scale).” Then you can even add; “When I practice the song I want to learn more, I’ll be able to play it really well!”

2) Phrase your statements positively. Starting sentences with words like; “I can't...”, “I never”, or “I don't” actually weaken us and make it harder for us to succeed. Any time you catch yourself using this type of wording, immediately rephrase the statement in a positive way by shifting your focus to what you can do and what you will do.  Eg: “I can't sing.” becomes “I can sing! I’m excited to learn more about vocal technique!”

3) Your brain takes every “I am” statement as a command, and tells you how to act and feel based on what you told it to do. Use your words wisely and tell yourself how amazing you are.  Eg: “I am terrible at jumps” becomes “I am awesome at jumps!“

Take a look around Star, and you’ll find some fabulous new signs and activities that will help you stay focused on the positive, and all you can do to empower yourself. We have some fun gratitude stars, where you can add notes saying what you’re grateful for, and some super shiny & glittery positive messages in the bathrooms too.

Find or create your own positive quotes, and say them out loud often. Writing these messages down will also really help cement the words in your mind. Do these activities often! The more you can flood your awareness with positive messages, the easier it will be to overcome the negative words when they pop up. Personally, I like to add positive quotes and messages to my planner, my journal, my vision book, my walls, my phone...anywhere I can, really.

There are lots more tools and tips for changing our thoughts and how we talk to ourselves. If you find yourself looking for more on how to do this effectively, please contact me at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it., or visit to learn more about how I can help.

Keep on groovin'!  Kayleigh T.S. Radatus, C.L.C.

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